Single Christian Woman, I give you permission to acknowledge your love-hate relationship with the Holiday Season! While it’s one of the most festive times of the year, it can be one of the most depressing and lonely.
As if you needed to be reminded, the entire world seems to be spreading holiday cheer around couples events.
Even if you have to recite “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me”, Philippians 4:13, a thousand times, you can get through this season.
Here are my tips to help you cope:
1-Prepare for the Devil's Romantic Illusions
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A Husband For Christmas, A Christmas Husband, A Fiancé for Christmas, the entertainment industry floods us with romantic movies.
The plot of the movie is familiar. The leading female character can't stand the hero. Or she walks out of her house and nearly trips over Mr. Right, who's bending down to pick up his car keys. By the end of the movie, she’s
happily married to a man she’s known for less than a day plus all of their drama is solved within an hour or two!
After watching the movie, you have mixed emotions. You enjoyed the movie, but now you’re feeling as if you are the only person on the
planet without a wedding ring! You don’t see how you can make it through another day
(or at least this holiday season) being single. If God really cared about you, why hasn’t He
sent your Mr. Right?
Sister, even
though the attack was subtle and disguised as harmless entertainment, you were hit by the Devil's Romantic Illusion.
The Devil's Romantic Illusion wants you to think you're the last person on earth without a mate. His Illusion wants you to forget that the movie is an entertainment production filled with actors, writers, film crew, and other hard-working people. The movie brings in major advertising dollars. Put your thinking cap on!
2- Launch Your Faith Rocket
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During this season, recharge your spiritual engine. Do it more frequently than in the past few months. You’ve
walked by faith before and now it’s time to do it again (2 Corinthians 5:7).
Remind yourself that you’re not just a nameless face in the population to God. You are His.
He knew you before you were conceived (Jeremiah 1:5). He knows your challenges as a single. He knows you want to be married. He hasn’t forgotten you or your desires.
3- Prepare
for the “When Are You Getting Married?” Question
Someone
is going to ask you this question either this season or within the next 6
months!
Here are
a few suggestions to answer this question.
Answer- for Christian friends and family:
(in a polite tone) Well, you know God has a season for everything. And as soon as He lets me know, I’ll let you know (change the subject or walk away).Answer- for non-Christian friends and family:
(in a polite tone) Marriage is serious business. I would rather not get married than spend the rest of my life miserable because I married the wrong person (change the subject or walk away).
4- Prepare for the “You better not wait too long to get married because you’re not getting younger,” comment.
Use the same response above to this comment.
I saw a funny response to this question on TikTok. The woman said, "I don't understand when people say that I should get married because I'm getting old! Will marriage stop me from getting old?"
5-Embrace the Spirit of Gratitude-Volunteer
Your
desire for a husband shouldn’t cause you to forget about your current blessings. Nothing can help you embrace the spirit of
gratitude quicker than volunteering. How about spreading cheer to
residents in the nursing home or patients in the hospital? Numerous charities could use
your help. This season use what He has
given you to be a blessing!
Most importantly, pray for wisdom in giving an answer that helps you feel comfortable and confident.
I'm praying for you!